Have you heard the myth “Kids don’t come with instruction manuals.”?
There are two dangers in believing this myth:
- The responsibility to be a “parent” can seem overwhelming.
- Many parents give raising their kids successfully over to chance.
Don’t believe this myth.
I actually have two instruction manuals for my kids.
Parenting without a plan is the fastest way to raise your kids without equipping them to have the best life they can.
If you’re a parent, you need to know about this one instruction manual we’ve all been given. In it, it says, “Teach this stuff to your kids. Talk about it with them before going to bed and as soon as you get up, while going about your day and while resting.”
The author is telling us that every moment is a teaching moment with our kids.
There are at least two reasons this is true:
- We don’t have forever and a day to teach our kids what they need to know
- We are teaching most when we ain’t meaning to be teaching at all. In other words, more is caught than is taught.
The first instruction manual I’m talking about is the Bible. For this post, I’m specifically talking about Deuteronomy 6:7.
Make Your Parenting Count; 5,6,7; is one of the parenting workshops I facilitate. The 5 comes from Deuteronomy being the 5th book of the Bible, the 6th chapter at the 7th verse tells us; “Teach this stuff to your kids….all the time” (I‘m paraphrasing of course) The main point, more is caught than is taught.
TIPS AND SUGGESTIONS:
- Read Deuteronomy chapter 5 and Deuteronomy 6:4 for a list of the most important lessons we are to teach our children. Then, read Chapter 6 verse 7 to see when we are to teach our kids these most important lessons.
- Explore and grasp the total concept of more is caught than is taught. For example; how you treat people teaches your kids more about how they are to treat people than how you tell them to treat people. (You might have to read that again, I had to type twice to get it right.)
- If your married, you and your spouse must be on the same page. If you’ve never talked about this, plan a night away just the two of you, to talk about this. You need a plan of action for your parenting. (I’m blushing, but sure…you can click to tweet that)
- Follow the 10 commandments…even the ones about not lying and not wanting what isn’t yours.
- Get connected to a strong healthy church.
- Begin writing letters to your kids in the future. (These by the way have become my second instruction manual for my kids.)
- Be involved and be focused in the lives of your kids. Not more then you are in your relationship with God or your spouse. Like it or not, in the healthiest families, kids come third. (Actually they come first by making them third…I call this the Parenting Equation, it’s some crazy math)
- ?What other Tips and Suggestions Do You Have?
WHAT YOU CAN DO RIGHT NOW:
- Identify what you need to do in your relationship with God and make that priority.
- Right now, write your kids a letter for this date next year. Make them a promise of something you want to model better. Maybe it’s telling the truth, being nicer to strangers, not gossiping, etc. Work to make the change you just promised your kid.
- Read Deuteronomy 5 and 6 (this will take you five minutes)
- Write Your Life
- The Most Important Leadership Lesson You Can Ever Learn
- 6 Letters I’m Writing My Kids To Focus My Parenting
WHAT DO YOU THINK?:
Add your thoughts to the comments or on my Facebook Page
- What do you think about the idea of making your kids first by putting them third?
- What tip or suggestion works for you to practice more is caught than is taught?