Nothing can be more important than your kids.
End of story.
I have never met a parent who didn’t want what’s best for their kids. Many however don’t know where to begin. I believe there is a structure you can put around your life that will indeed increase the likelihood of setting your kids up for success in life.
The specifics of how you do this and how you define success is up to you. Those things are nonessential. It’s having and using a system that is essential.
Here it is, my opinion:
- You come first.
- Your spouse comes second.
- Your kids come third.
That’s right, I just put that on the World Wide Web for anyone and everyone to see.
What will my kids think when they see that one day?
They’ll thank me.
As a Christian, I believe by putting God first in my life, I’m actually putting my family first.
I want to be the best version of me I can be. The best husband, father, leader, camp director, entrepreneur, etc. I do this by being selfish. I focus on me first by focusing on having a growing relationship with Christ. I study and try to learn something new everyday about my faith, being a better husband, a stronger father, a great workplace leader, etc.
Then, comes my relationship with my wife.
Marissa and I want to live a marriage our kids want to copy. We want to be a unified front that is unstoppable in our goals for life. Plus, keep your spouse as your best friend. You’ll need them when the kids move out and work at summer camp,
Finally, we focus on our children. We believe more is caught than is taught. To that end, as we are teaching our kids they see us living what we preach. Our kids see a huge living God we trust, worship and follow in everything, not just on Sunday. They see a marriage worth copying. They see a work ethic that leads to productivity. They will forgive each other and others more quickly because they will see Marissa and I keeping no record of wrongs.
TIPS AND SUGGESTIONS:
- Find the time to focus on you and your relationship with Christ. Check out Andy Traub’s book, Early To Rise.
- Be in a healthy church.
- Date your spouse.
- Start with the end in mind. Write letters to your kids and spouse for the future. In the letters, write what you hope life is like when they are reading these letters. Now you have some goals. (For more on this check out my eBook)
- ?What other Tips and Suggestions Do You Have?
WHAT YOU CAN DO RIGHT NOW:
- Schedule a date night with your spouse.
- Write one letter to one of your kids or your spouse.
- Find a healthy church to check-out this weekend.
- Find a summer camp, sign up the kids and then go on vacation with your spouse while they are there. (I’m a camp director, and I have lots of parent do this…it’s such a good idea.)
RELATED POST ON MY BLOG:
- More Is Caught Than Is Taught
- How To Parent Your Kids The Right Way
- Six Letters I’m Writing My Kids To Focus My Parenting
RELATED POST ON MY WIFE’S BLOG:
WHAT DO YOU THINK?:
- What other benefits will kids experience by having parents united and in love with each other?
- Do you agree or disagree with me? Why?
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