I don’t know about you, but I hear a lot of people say that Marriage is 50/50, each person has to give and take and it’s all about compromise.
The problem is, I hear this from people with failed marriages. From a generation getting marriage wrong.
Marriage isn’t 50/50.
- Complete submission.
- Hard work.
- Something you do, not a label of what you are.
Recently I heard, “Marriage is 90/10”. WOW, this isn’t right either. I mean, why hold back anything. We are called in scripture to fully submit to one another. The Bible says we become One Flesh. Therefore, I say to you that marriage is 100/100.
There shouldn’t be any give and take in marriage. There should be give and receive. (Please, click here to tweet that)
When I got married to my beautiful wife, Marissa. I gave 100% of myself to her and our relationship. And she did the same to me and to us. Do I have dreams of my own? Sure, when they include her.
TIPS AND SUGGESTIONS:
- Each spouse needs permission to say, “I think you NEED or SHOULD be here or there.” when it comes down to deciding between a work function and a family function.
- If you work for a company that won’t put your family first, find a new career…or make one for yourself.
- Pray for your spouse’s wants as much or more than you pray for your own.
- Study and date your spouse.
- Keep a time budget for one week. Record the time you spend focused on work, spouse, kids, family, friends, and yourself. How does your spouse measure up? Are you really sacrificing for them?
- With your spouse, create a weekly/daily time budget. How much time does everything in your life get.
ACTION YOU CAN TAKE RIGHT NOW:
- Ask your spouse how you are doing.
- Read the book Choosing to Cheat by Andy Stanley.
- Schedule a time to work on a time budget with your spouse.
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Questions: How do you keep your marriage 100/100? What’ fraction do you give your marriage?
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